A blog and community devoted to sharing creative ideas for bringing a camera into your bedroom adventures, hosted by Tony and Peggy Comstock of Comstock Films.
For all of my bluster and enthusiasm for risk-taking, there’s one thing I’m terrified of: not being taken seriously – and part of what this blog is about for me is to make a very deliberate attempt to let my guard down and loosen up a little, and this is part of a larger self-improvement project to force myself out of my comfort zone.
To that end I’ve been reading and commenting at TheAmericanScene.com, a conservative group blog; a place where people who believe in erototoxins get the benefit of the doubt, and people like me, well suffice it to say, I am somewhat of a curiosity.
Reihan also makes a confession about his longing to wear a sarong:
Some years ago, a beautiful woman told me that she thinks more men should wear sarongs, and this left an impression on me. The trouble is that I know my limitations, and I’m pretty sure there’s no way in hell I can pull off a sarong. I might be able to pull off a sarong if I were wrestling multiple grizzly bears at the same time. But that hasn’t happened in weeks. Moreover, the pro-sarong woman — full disclosure — sort of shattered my heart and ate it. And it wasn’t even an entrée: it was a side dish, like sauteed spinach, yo. Only it was my heart. Damn you! Earlier today, another beautiful woman told me that wearing a sarong would represent a serious lapse in judgment, and I guess I’ll defer to her superior wisdom.
I am a long devotee of the living “the sarong lifestyle” and I think Reihan would totally rock a sarong; and I said so in the comments, but so far no images of Reihan wearing one have surfaced on the internet. And despite what I hope will be an ongoing effort to force myself out of my comfort zone, don’t expect any YouTubes of me rapping anytime soon either!
Camera Notes
This was shot on a very foggy afternoon in our front yard with our Canon PowerShot, auto-everything, with the zoom lens on widest angle. Auto everything because the LCD screen is on the fritz and that’s the only damn way to change the setting. Wide angle because that exagerated the perspective an makes the objects in the background much smaller than the subject. Peggy took about 8 shots in about 5 minutes.
I imported them to iPhoto and tweeked the look with the following settings: Exposure +.39 Contrast +100 Highlights 56.5 Shadows 11 Saturation 80 Temperature 17.9 Tint -1.6 Sharpness 1.00 Reduce Noise 14.2.
The light quality on a foggy day actually has a soft, wrap around everything, no harsh shadows quality that can be quite lovely. But it’s also very blue and very low-contrast. I boosted the over-all color level quite a bit and added more contrast, then brought the shadows and highlight back (a little on the shadows, a lot on the highlight.) Then I warmed up the color balance and tipped the tint away from the green side to the purple side. Lastly I added a dose of sharpness and noise reduction to give the photo a slightly painterly look.
This all stuff that years ago I would have have done with additional lights, reflectors and filters, and probably would even today if this were a “professional shoot”. None the less I’m pretty impressed with iPhotos ability to take a pretty dull light and dress it up enough that I’m happy with it.
I also like the way I look in the photo. Yeah, my belly looks bigger than I’d like, but I think my arms and chest look powerful, and the rendering feels “honest”, if that makes any kind of sense. I also like the way the sarong sits on my hips. There’s a certain easy confidence that seems to express how I feel when I’m feeling my best. It’s nice to see the camera can capture that.
Similarly, when I was in school, many of my female photography student colleagues went through self-portrait phases, but I remember this being far less common among male students.
Hello and welcome. I am Tony Comstock, and I am a filmmaker and photographer. I want to tell you about two very important things that happened when I first started went “online” about 15 years ago.
The first was that I met my wife Peggy. This was back before the World Wide Web, so when I say I “met” her, what I really mean is I noticed a post she made on a BBS, and I sent her a note, and from there we began to chat using an old unix program called nTalk. There was no exchanging pictures back then, let alone video chatting. The first time I saw her was after months and months of chatting, when I met her for lunch. I liked what I saw, and I guess she did too. We were married two years later.
The other thing that happened around this same time is that the internet went from being a text-only environment to a graphical environment. The first graphical browser, Mosaic, came out, then Netscape, and then the whole internet explosion. And somewhere inside of that explosion, people started posting sexy pictures of themselves, sometimes privately, sometimes in semipublic places, and sometimes out for the whole world to see.
I was fascinated, captivated and turned on by this sudden access to DIY erotic images. In the wake of the Meese Commission, and the unwholesome alliance of social conservatism and the radical anti-sex wing of feminism professional erotic image making had died a slow, ugly death. But these homemade expressions of sexuality, these mementos of sexual joy seemed to offer a way forward.
I thought, “What if I could capture the enthusiasm and authenticity of these pictures, but bring my skills as professional filmmaker to the process?” 15 years later and with 6 well-loved erotic documentary films to our credit I’m pleased with how we answered that question. We’ve proved that sexual imagery doesn’t have to be lurid or phony or tacky, but neither does it have be arid or sterile or joyless.
I’m coming back to do-it-yourself erotic image making for a few reasons. The first is simply that I get a lot of requests from magazines to offer my expertise on this subject. But bad advice is worse than no advice, and they always screw it up, so we’ve stopped saying yes. This blog is a way to go around the gatekeepers (aka magazine editors) and put my ideas about how people can have fun with cameras into the world directly.
Secondly, really amazing things have happened with the technology. I bought a little digital camera last year and was flabbergasted to find out it would also shoot up to 3 hours of full-screen video. This laptop I’m typing on right now came with a suite of software for image editing and video editing that I would have killed for 20 years ago. The tools that ordinary people have in their hands are really impressive, and with just a dash of technical knowledge, a little insight into the “Art of Seeing,” and a sense of play, it’s possible to use these very ordinary tools to make images you’ll treasure; mementos you’ll be glad to have 5, or 10, or 20 years from now.
The last thing is that once again I feel like commercial erotic image making is at a dead end, and once again I feel like the DIY approach offers a way forward; a way to see the collision of sex and image-making as joyful and consensual, and most of all playful. A way to show that making love is as much a part of our life as children’s birthday parties, or weddings, or company softball games, and every bit as worthy of being memorialized with images.
So if you’re nodding your head and saying “Yes, Tony’s right.” please add this blog to your RSS feed, or your blog roll, or tell a friend. If being an independent filmmaker means anything, it means being inventive, and I have 20+ years of inventive ideas that can make memorializing your erotic life easier, more satisfying, and more fun!
I’d also like to invite you to share your ideas and experiences with me, either just privately, or for publication. You can reach me in comments here, or tony at camera play for couples dot com.
Thanks for stopping by and I hope you’ll keep reading!
